7 Severn

The Britannica Dictionary states: –

Stunned:
To surprise or upset (someone) very much.

Shocked:
To surprise and usually upset (someone)
To cause (someone) to feel horror or disgust.

Dismayed:
To cause (someone) to feel very worried, disappointed, or upset.

From the above descriptions. It is to be noted, the words “Surprise” “Worried” and “Disappointment”, have been covered in earlier posts. Which leaves the common thread for this week being “Upset”.

It is true that we have a tendency to romanticise an ideal world, where everything goes smoothly in life.
Whereas the reality is rarely so smooth and easy going.

More importantly. What actually happens, is when faced once too often with yet another setback. If we’re not careful, we allow ourselves to become upset with the way things are.

Yes we may become stunned, shocked or dismayed in the moment. That doesn’t mean we have to remain that way. 
Having faced and moved through our fear, anger and sadness. We may assure ourselves, that although now in surprising situations – we will move through those too.

So think about it… Is it really so upsetting?

If so, the next questions to ask ourselves would be:
Why are we upset?
What or who is the cause of it?
How is the upset showing itself, is it a physical feeling you’re experiencing?

You may wish to “Tap” on this for awhile.
I also offer the following, for those who may be particularly susceptible to upsets.

Scheduling Worry Time.

This may help to put things into perspective, rather than allowing the upset to consume most of your day.

A WORD OF CAUTION:
Do not schedule worry time prior to sleeping. Do not enter into traumatic events or extremely stressful situations. If you become highly anxious, fearful or uncomfortable. Please discontinue with this practice.

*Choose the same time each day, where you have at least 30 minutes.
*You may of course find yourself worrying at any time of the day. If so, acknowledge it – this is important so as not to fight it. Then do what you can to postpone it until your scheduled time. You can acknowledge and postpone the situation by saying: “Thank you, I’ll see you at (scheduled time). Then continue with your day.
*When the time arrives, commit fully to it. Carry it out just as you would any other meeting. Try to concentrate on one thing at a time until you have gone through all concerns. You may say your worries to yourself, out loud, or write them out.
*If you find yourself drifting onto things other than worry during this time. This should be viewed positively – showing that particular worry has less of a hold over you.
*Once this scheduled time is over, close the meeting and announce you will resume the following day.
*If there’s a particular worry that has a hold of you, be sure to record this for your next meet.
*Try to stick with this for one full week and review your findings.

Once again. Should you require more formal advice or assistance on today’s topic, then please seek it accordingly. It may also be worthwhile to involve any support network you may have at this stage.

Thank you for reading.

Next Week. We’re discussing: Confused – Disillusioned –  Perplexed.