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This week, we’re talking about the “3 D’s” and they’re by no means pleasant.

“What you resist persists.” – Carl Jung

The Britannica Dictionary states: –

Disappointed:
Feeling sad, unhappy, or displeased because something was not as good as expected or because something you hoped for or expected did not happen.
Unhappy because someone has behaved badly.

Dismayed:
To cause (someone) to feel very worried, disappointed, or upset.

Displeased:
To make (someone) feel unhappy or annoyed.

As unpleasant as they may be, we’ve gone through more intense subjects during our discussions. And so too, we will get through today’s topic.
Let’s face it, any emotion beginning with “Dis” is never going to be great.

It has been repeatedly stated. It is OK, to feel as we do and whereas we experience emotions, we are not them and they are not us. This is true. So does that mean – insofar as emotions are concerned – we’re merely vessels for them?
Not exactly. A better word would be “conduit.”

Facing emotional experiences throughout our lives, is inevitable. When this is known, they’re expected. And when something is expected, it can be planned for.
I’m not saying plan on being worried or disappointed and ready yourself for it – like you would plan a party for instance. What I am saying is, through life experiences we become more aware and begin to understand and prepare for every eventuality.

For example. When we’re young and perhaps just starting out in life. We realise that all the best laid plans are not without their setbacks. We experience a range of emotions and become disappointed, dismayed and displeased at times.
As life moves on, we experience plenty of emotions and notice they revisit us from time to time. As they do so. The memory of previous times comes back to us and now we’re facing those emotions, from a more wiser perspective.

Now we have a better understanding. It is easier for us to sit with the emotions, allowing them to be with us, until their time is spent and they are no longer there. So if “something was not as good as expected or something you hoped for or expected did not happen.”
Have your experience of disappointment and move on.

If you do require assistance to talk through your current circumstance, please seek it accordingly.

Thank you for reading.

Next Week. We’re discussing: Hopeless – Anguished – Powerless.