7 Severn

The Britanica Dictionary states: –

Envious:
Feeling or showing a desire to have what someone else has.

Resentful: Having or showing a feeling of anger or displeasure about someone or something unfair.

Jealous:
Feeling or showing an unhappy or angry desire to have what someone else has.

Feeling or showing unhappiness or anger because you think that someone you love (such as your husband or wife) likes or is liked by someone else.

Very concerned about protecting or keeping something.

What an absolute waste of our valuable time and energy it is – to get so preoccupied in such things. Yet we do so, nonetheless.

As with all things and situations that are not so healthy for us. We need to put a different focus on them, whilst allowing them to pass.

We are emotional beings. To acknowledge this fact, may not feel comfortable with some people. Particular for those that are Male. It just doesn’t sit well for us to accept, let alone discuss emotions – generally speaking.

We hear talk of New Age Man and how more in tune they may with their emotional state. That said. We are all still susceptible to all emotional states at some time or other.

When it comes to our current states. We have three choices.
1/ Do nothing.
2/ React.
3/ Respond.

If you’re going through something right now that you know is a passing phase and it’s not causing any wrongdoing to either yourself or others. Then to do nothing may be right for you on this occasion.

if on the other hand, you know that it IS a wrongdoing, then naturally you are likely to either react or respond.

To feel envious, resentful or jealous at any time, are personal responses. It is OK to feel them on a personal level. Although were those feelings allowed to develop and become stronger, this may lead to reaction.
As with all emotions. The best thing we can all do is acknowledge them as a passing state. You may – if you wish – wonder as to why you are now feeling this way. Which in turn, may help you better understand yourself in such circumstances. However. Do not give those feelings power over you.

Here’s a true event on envy, jealousy and resentment and how quickly the outcome can go either way:

I was at work as an employee around ten or so years ago. A few of us would meet for drinks on occasion following our shift. Sometimes we’d be on alternate shifts and therefore would not meet up.
One time, I met others as agreed, with the exception of one – who had to work. They called me by phone during their break to see if we were still out and actually said how jealous they were, because they had to work and would rather not. There was also envy and resentment showing.

I could have laughed and gloated – as maybe the normal response when out on the town. This would no doubt have stirred things further. Yet I didn’t.
What I did was to tell them there’d be other nights out and reminded them of their up-and-coming holiday. Alongside the fact that it ought to be me that should be jealous. This was all it took to make them feel better and it actually put them – visually – at their holiday destination.

I didn’t react – which would have made it about me and aggravated matters.
Instead, I responded – and made it about them. A happy resolve and a peaceful night, with warm regard.

This is a simple scenario – although serves the purpose, without going too deep – and I’m sure you get the point

As ever. Seek assistance and guidance, if required.

Thank you for reading.

Next Week. We’re discussing: Disgusted – Contemptuous – Revolted.