7 Severn

The Britannica Dictionary states: –

Enraged:
To make (someone) very angry: to fill (someone) with rage.

Hateful:
Very bad or evil: causing or deserving hate.

Hostile:
Of or relating to an enemy.
Not friendly: having or showing unfriendly feelings.

So now we’re feeling Enraged – Hateful and Hostile.
The first thing I would suggest, is to be sure of who or what enrages you.

The second thing I would suggest, is to be sure of why they/it enrages you.

The third thing – as I touched upon last week – ensure you’re not venting anger on an innocent person. If the innocent person must feature in proceedings. Then perhaps a better way, would be to let them know, you’re going through something that enrages you and would they mind talking through or working through the situation with you. If they cannot personally help, they may offer advice on where to get help.

Remember. Not everyone likes us – nor do they have to. Just as we do not like everyone, and we don’t have to either. That is OK.

When someone or something causes a reaction in us. We have then given them power over us. Which is why it is better to respond. It may not be easy in the beginning, yet as with all practice – the improvement will show.

Naturally. If you do need support, then ask someone for guidance. In the meantime, go back to my first and second suggestions: –

1/ Be sure of who or what enrages you.
2/ Be sure of why they/it enrages you.

After that the next thing you can do is, begin to work on improvement. Remember, you do this for your benefit – no one else’s.

This will come in handy for when meeting with someone who is to assist. As they will see in you, someone who wants to be over this particular aspect.
What’s more. In going through the two suggestions, you may find the answer resolved.

Ways in which you may improve: –

Do you have/need to associate yourself with the person/place/thing that enrages you?
If not, then cut them out of your life/experience.

If you can’t cut them out altogether, then consider this. It is the little things we do that make all the difference. You can begin to look at tolerance. You may have heard the phrase: “Make the best out of a bad lot.” 
Can you see this as a possibility?
If not, what else is needed?

If it is a person, what is it about them that enrages you? Maybe look at that aspect and show tolerance towards that – if you’re unable to face the individual.

Another aspect to genuinely consider is Shadow Work. I touch upon that in a previous post entitled: “Great Expectations.”

Take things one step at a time. No one is born Enraged. Something/Somewhere/Someone happened in your life to bring this experience to you.
Can you begin to look objectively at the events in your life that has led to your present state?

Again. If you do find yourself in this particular state. You may consider professional guidance at this point. In doing so, please remember they are not there to judge you. Rather. They are ultimately there for your support.

Thank you for reading.

Next Week. We’re discussing: Exasperated – Agitated, Frustrated.