7 Severn

“An anger is an energy!” sang John Lydon, in his song ‘Rise’ with band Public Image Limited. It is also the title of his autobiography.

Whether or not you are a fan, doesn’t matter. It is the point he makes quite clearly in that one line alone, summing up perfectly the word: Anger.

The Britannica Dictionary states: –
Anger:
 a strong feeling of being upset or annoyed because of something wrong or bad: the feeling that makes someone want to hurt other people, to shout, etc.: the feeling of being angry.

It further states:
“Anger is a general word that applies to many different levels of emotion that may or may not be shown.”

When you attach this to the initial line by John Lydon, we can view the word Anger – to use a metaphor – as though it were a Stew. Either bubbling away at boiling point on the front burner or simmering on the back burner. Let us not forget, that simmering – in this case – may actually be seething.

An anger IS an energy and if you are in this state, then you are fighting back in some way. Although it can be quite intense, this is actually a better state to be in than Fear. So, if you are someone that has moved out of Fear and are now Angered. Well done you.

The unfortunate thing – I find – is that we tend to become angered with those we are closest to, as a natural way to vent anger. This most of you will know and understand. The unfortunate thing in this case is, those closest to us may not be the ones who anger us.
We tend to go down the path of least resistance. Sometimes at any cost.

This is unfair to our close ones who may also be our one and only support. Unless they know you well, it may – in turn – lead them into the belief, they actually did you wrong. They wrack their brains, wandering what it is they did to upset you.

Eventually. They come to realise, there was nothing they did wrong. You are angry about something and are using them as someone to vent your anger upon.

Now you are potentially faced with two issues. You haven’t resolved your initial conflict that angered you. Also. You may be upset those closest to you, who having been at the brunt of your anger once too often. They’re now Enraged as a consequence. They become Hateful and even Hostile towards you, which is the topic of conversation for Next Week.

Thank you for reading.