7 Severn

Some feelings and situations are completely understandable and therefore acceptable. Yet when we feel insecure, it is important to understand precisely why we feel this way and act upon it.

Left alone, a belief is developed in it as our truth. This gives it power over us. Leaving ourselves feeling inferior or inadequate in some way. This naturally depends on our given situation.

For example, and to bring some perspective into it. Unless you are in genuine immediate or potential danger, you should never have to feel insecure and there are many groups and organisations around who are there to help. Should you need them.

If your insecurity is work related. Can you talk to a colleague – your boss – Human Resources Department – Union? If not, it may be time to pursue another career.

Unfortunately. A genuine feeling of insecurity is – in the majority of cases – perceived as a “problem.” we have personally. As opposed to an emotion passing through us.

This can – in turn – develop into an Inferiority complex which also has the power to bring about “Imposter Syndrome.” We no longer enjoy what we are doing, which could lead to mistakes and we’re now on a downward spiral.

The fact that we perceive something like this as a problem, is because we feel it in ourselves as a failing. This will never turn out well, as we actually make excuses because of it – I’m not qualified, trained, experienced for instance. As opposed to facing our fear.
Which is why I speak of the importance to understand why we feel this way and act upon it.

I will had. If your insecurity is merely a feeling that you just can’t shake, then I offer the following – which should be read as prompts – not criticism:

There is always something you can do.
We only get qualified when we qualify.
We only get trained when we’re in training.
We only become experienced having gained experience.
You are enough!
And you Can do it!

And let us not forget. Some people also have a fear of achievement or success (yes this is genuine). It stunts both our personal and professional growth. We stagnate and are then constantly faced with issues.

If you would like to work on this yourselves, then I give a walk-through in an earlier post entitled:
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) 6/14.
Just substitute the wording used for your particular circumstance.

The Britannica Dictionary states: –

Insecure: not secure. Such as: not confident about yourself or your ability to do things well. Nervous and uncomfortable.

Inferior: low or lower in quality or rank.
Of little or less importance or value.

Inadequate: Not enough or not good enough.
Not adequate.

Thank you for reading.

Next Week, we’re discussing: Nervous, Worried, Anxious.