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“Real magic in relationships means an absence of judgment of others.” Wayne Dyer

There are some people who are good judges of character, and we generally form our opinion of others during the first few moments of meeting them.

Yes. We are fully entitled to our opinions. Yet, when we are working by opinion alone, can this be justified?

In this day and age, where we live in an increasingly more fast paced and “throw away” society. Where stress and anxiety levels are higher and due to our busy lives, we generally seem to have little time, or regard for those that matter in our lives. Despite all of that. It would appear that we still manage to find time to judge others. We’re constantly judging and being judged ourselves. It comes naturally to us.

Do you naturally look at people in a positive, or a negative manner?

What is it about us that makes us so judgemental?

What is it about others that we are judging and why?

What makes us open to judgement by others?

These are big questions and very relevant.

There are of course situations where this can be a good thing – where time is of the essence and you need to make a quick decision. As long as this is kept in perspective – without belittling anyone – all good and well.

BUT. What if we turn this around? Ask yourselves:
Wouldn’t life be easier… better… happier, if Instead of using the little time we do have in being judgemental of others, we actively sought to find something good about them.

I was taught that when you are dealing with people, you must sift through a lot of dirt to find the gold.
I believe there is at least an ounce of gold in everyone. Sometimes, this just needs to be encouraged to the surface.

Perhaps more importantly, you should ask yourself: Who am I to judge others? What concern is it of mine?

Perhaps now more than ever, after the last couple of years. People the world over could do with a much needed break, as we all go about our lives.

I am talking about Recognition. When was the last time you recognised someone, just for being themselves?
So let us move on and cast aside our judgement. I’d encourage instead, a move into: Gratitude.

More precisely. I’d encourage everyone to be even more grateful with the gratitude they do have and then extend that further, to more people in their life. Those who otherwise may go unnoticed.

In doing so. The words and gestures you put to others – with genuine gratitude, have a more meaningful and therefore greater impact.
This is due to the power, thought and feeling we put behind the words we use, making it so. Words themselves are just words… empty… meaningless.

For instance. How do you feel, when someone snaps back at you, as in a reprimand? Naturally, you don’t feel too good.
How do you feel, when you receive praise for the great help you have been to someone and they go on to make sure everyone else knows about it? Or maybe you’ve gained official recognition from an employer and everyone in your department are acknowledging this. You feel good.
This is because there was power, thought and feeling behind the words used.

Let’s say you are out and about. You stop off somewhere for coffee and as you’re leaving, the Server says something like: “Bye now, please call back soon.” How do you feel now?
Indifferent and or nothingness I bet. That is because, it is just a line fed to you. The Server has been instructed to say this. There is no personal power, thought or feeling behind the words.

So practice gratitude everyday and when you do, make sure to put power to the thought and feeling behind your words.

Ask yourself right now: What 5 things am I truly grateful for?