7 Severn

As I went about my days these past couple of weeks. I was reminded of the old saying: “Beware of pointing your finger at someone, as there are 3 pointing directly back at you.” This reminder, was due to my being in the unfortunate position as repeated observer during this time.

For those who are not familiar with this. When we literally point a finger at someone (as in blame or accusation). By our own hand, we are pointing 3 of our own fingers directly back at ourselves.

Now we have all – at some point in our lives – looked at others and not been entirely happy with what we have witnessed. I’m not talking about life threatening matters, or even malpractice here. Just basic everyday situations, where people are quick to point the finger.

This is generally due to a preconceived idea held by the finger pointer. They somehow have this great expectation of what should be and what people should do. If things don’t turn out as expected, they jump all over it – and it can be quite demoralising if you find yourself on the receiving end. This doesn’t help anyone or achieve anything.

It does however, reveal plenty about the one pointing the finger. This is addressed within Self Help under Shadow Work.

Before we go further and you start looking into this yourselves. I must inform you. Although an interesting study, Shadow Work is by no means polite in it’s revelations. Neither is it an easy study – particularly when starting out. More often than not, you may not recognise yourself initially, which could lead to resentment on what you do find and even push you into denial.

Please be assured. I do not say these words lightly. It really is a serious matter.

In Shadow Work. The pointing of a finger at someone else is actually highlighting a trait you dislike about yourself. When you do this, you literally have one finger pointing at others and three pointing at yourself. So what does this say about you? …

Well I did say it wasn’t polite.

By way of advice this week. I would suggest the following:

Take a step back and be mindful in all of your endeavours. Should you find yourself in a position where you may point a finger. Stop and ask yourself, what does this tell me about myself? Or, you may list the occasion in your Diary or Journal under “Self Work”, or other suitable title. Then go back to it later for self improvement.

Alternatively and only if you feel able. Recognise this trait and offer the other person a little assistance in one way or another. This isn’t necessarily an easy thing to do either. Yet on doing so, you will be a step closer to addressing this particular trait in yourself.

I will finish with the following:

The people we meet in our lives are there for a reason. They may be there to offer support, advice or lesson.

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